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Cannot recommend WDHDT highly enough. I’ve found it helpful not just for romantic relationships, but also for growing up w a “unexplainable/uncontrollable” dad.
IT HAS ALSO BEEN REALLY HELPFUL FOR UNDERSTANDING ONLINE MOB HARASSMENT.
So if you’ve ever been bombarded w threats to be raped/killed, (so…if you’re a minority and you’ve been on the Internet for a while), this book might be useful for getting clarity around the whole entitled, abusive mindset that drives certain kinds of people to behave that way. And by “getting clarity”, I mean (for me) being able to go “oh, that’s what’s happening” and not really feel scared anymore. Or angry, or drawn out into it, or anything.
And if you’re still standing around going “but how does something like GamerGate happen?” or “but why do men hit their wives?” or whatever – please read that book and learn something.
^^^^ truth WDHDT is fantastic at cutting down MRA bullshit and calling it what it really is
Please consider reading these. WDHDT is really, really helpful. And I know some of you are struggling with abusive relationships, friendships, families, etc. You’re not alone. There is help.
Yo. This family holiday, please, please take care of yourself. You aren’t there to be anybody else’s cushion.
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents
Reading any of these books does not mean you don’t love your parents or family. It’s just self care for helping you cope and not repeat the behaviors.
All the books in this thread are great; adding this one because it was the most helpful to me. Free pdf here
Why does he do that is one of the best book I’ve ever read. You don’t have to be in an abusive relationship to enjoy it and learn from it. It’s about male entitlement and debunking men’s favourite excuses and lies to justify how they treat women. I think there is a free pdf online, if not just buy it, honestly, it’s a must read for any woman.
I just want to say that it’s posts like this that changed my life. It’s tumblr, not the decade+ of therapy, that made me realise that my mother is a narcissist, that I was abused. It was tumblr and posts like these that taught me what emotional abuse is, what gaslighting is. For the first time I was able to identify what happened to me and start the healing process. In my 20’s. Thank you to everyone who’s ever reblogged this bc it really can help people. Always reblog.
Also some books that have helped me and given me clarity, I recommend:
The Narcissistic Family by Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman (this ones written for therapists and diagnosticians but it’s very readable)
Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn (I don’t have kids nor do I intend to have kids but this is excellent to read anyway, since abused kids like us will in some way have to re-parent themselves throughout their lives)
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van der Kolk
Internal Family Systems Therapy by Richard Schwartz
I have PDFs of all of these in my Dropbox. Please message me if you’d like to read them.
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